Okay…let me preface this post by saying that I am the first person to complain about my problems/issues/stressors. I’ve noticed that a lot of times, I can do my emotional dumping on everyone around me. I’m working on that, but what’s a perfection hangover without a little acknowledgement and self growth, right? Expressing gratitude will not only help you acknowledge feelings and let go of negativity but it also helps your inner self when you speak love and thankfulness to God, your spouse, your family, and friends.
Aaron and I bought a house in 2013 in Georgia. We had become pregnant with our third child (a beautiful, wonderful, unexpected blessing), and we were renting at the time. I, immediately, began thinking our oldest daughter was 5 years older than our son, and they each needed their own room, so where would the baby sleep? We were paying $1050 per month for a 3 bedroom, 2 bath, 1500 sq ft house, and I just felt there was no way that we could live in those tight quarters as a family of five. I was a go-getter real estate agent at the time as well, so we bought a house that June. I talked my husband into it because I actually earned a commission on the purchase of the home since I was my husband’s real estate agent.
A couple of months later, we had Sadie, and we realized we had no help where we lived. Our “vacations” consisted of visiting family in Illinois or Oklahoma, and the buyers’ remorse set in. We decided to move to Illinois to be closer to family. So after only a year of living in our beautiful home, we ended up renting the house out for 2 years to two different renters (while unsuccessfully trying to sell it for a month or two during the summer months). The first renters paid rent on time every month, like clockwork. The second set of renters were a nightmare. I’ll spare you the emotional dumping ground of that situation, but she was late nearly every month, skipped out on the last 2 months of rent, and even threatened to sue us for ruining her right to quiet enjoyment by placing the home for sale on the internet more than 60 days prior to move out. My bad. I’ll admit it. So we amicably parted ways.
Finally….FINALLY…that house is under contract! Hallelujah! We are all set to close next week, and even though we’re coming out of pocket to get it sold, it is an absolute blessing to be done with it. Never again will we lose sleep over a tenant who can’t pay. Gone are the days of wondering if we’ll even be able to procure another tenant that won’t destroy the home, leaving us even deeper in the hole. A very wise woman once said, “Bye, Felicia!” So I have to give a huge shout out to my realtor, Phillip Collins, with A Choice Realty in Warner Robins, GA, for helping us out. He offers a flat fee commission as part of his service, which saved us THOUSANDS of dollars in realtor fees. He also did an incredible job keeping up with all of the paperwork, repairs, cleaning, etc. He was a Godsend!
For the past two years, I’ve bitched and complained about how hard it was to sell this house.
It wasn’t until I started being grateful that shit started to happen!
I lay down one night and said a prayer…I said, “God, I LOVE YOU. I TRUST YOU. You will see us through ANYTHING! Tell me what to do!”. About 30 minutes later, I got a call from my realtor stating that we had an offer, and he thought we should take it. God can work some miracles, y’all. But you have to be willing to open your heart and be thankful and grateful for what you already have. Be grateful for the struggles. They are teaching you lessons! Be grateful for the love of family.
Lesson in Gratitude from a 10 Year Old
I’ll end on this note. My daughter has one of my old phones. She uses it to play music and video chat with her friends. The other day, the phone was charging and fell off the table and cracked in the charging port. I went into my closet and pulled out a $15 prepaid LG phone that I had for emergencies, and I gave it to her to use. She thanked me, and a few days later (when I was monitoring her use), I noticed she had posted a message to her friend that said, “I broke my other phone, so I have to use this one. But ALWAYS be GRATEFUL!” In that moment I realized that life is all about perspective. You can wallow in self pity, or you can be grateful for many blessings. The choice is yours. <3