Say it with me…”No thank you”. “I really appreciate the offer, but…” “Unfortunately, we can’t…” Just say No!
Have you ever taken on a project and immediately felt guilty because you knew it was just too much for you to handle at the time? Have you ever had friends invite you out, and you just knew it wasn’t in the budget or you really needed your family time but you went anyway because you didn’t want to feel guilty?
Stop! Right now…just stop.
I’m here to tell you that you have to prioritize and learn to just say no. Overscheduling and overcommitting to projects and activities will wear you out and make you completely unproductive.
You are your own life manager. What you do with your time will affect your productivity and happiness. Your best friend doesn’t pay your bills! If you miss her girls’ night out because you want to save money, don’t let her guilt you for that! If you can’t volunteer to head up a school fundraiser because you’ve got soccer practice 3 days a week, gymnastics twice a week, and church twice a week, so be it!
I’ve lived as a people pleaser for damn near my entire life, and I finally have learned that if people aren’t happy with how I run my life and schedule my priorities, that’s just too bad. I always try to do my best, but you can’t allow other people to control your emotions and run your life. It’s YOUR life, so live it!
Just Say No!
One of my favorite quotes is from Harvey McKay, “No one ever went broke by saying no too often”. I’m not saying you shouldn’t have fun, but if you have plans and goals, don’t let someone else sabotage it. If they choose to take it personal, that’s on them! You should always do your best to cultivate those relationships and friendships that are good for both parties. You should always try to volunteer and give your time to those activities and causes that interest you and make you happy. You only get one life, so make the most of what you have and learn to say no when you’re overstretched. You’ll be so much happier as a result!
Take it or leave it! That’s just my two cents. 🙂