I said yes to a volunteer role at church even though I knew, before I agreed, that I didn’t want to do it. I was already stretched between work, my kids, and what was happening in my marriage. But I worried about what people would think if I turned it down. The program helped people…
YOUR QUIZ RESULTS The Controller You’re tired of being the one who has to think of everything. You notice what needs to happen, remember the details, and step in when something might fall through. People count on you because you follow through. But you’re exhausted. Even when someone offers to help, it can be hard…
Content note: This episode discusses childhood abuse, sexual assault, and a past suicide attempt. In my last episode, I shared how I went from a performance improvement plan to a promotion in six months. After recording it, I realized I’d left out something important: why that experience felt so much bigger than feedback about my…
You ask for help. Somebody steps in. Then you start correcting, checking, or quietly redoing their work—and end up handling the whole thing yourself. If you’ve ever thought, “It’s just easier if I do it,” this episode is for you. We’re talking about how perfectionism can make sharing responsibility harder, even when you’re exhausted and…
Six months after being placed on a performance improvement plan, I earned a promotion and a significant raise. It looked like a comeback story. But once I stopped worrying about losing my job, I started worrying about ever disappointing anyone again. In this episode of Perfection Hangover, I share what happened before that performance conversation,…