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You remember the school emails, the appointments, and the thing your boss mentioned once in a meeting. When someone needs help, you’re usually already figuring it out. People tell you they don’t know what they’d do without you, but you’re exhausted—and stepping back feels harder than continuing to do everything. In this episode of Perfection…

Content note: This episode includes references to childhood instability, unhealthy relationships, alcohol misuse, and a past suicide attempt. Growing up, I learned to expect relationships to end and life to change without much warning. For years, I carried those expectations into my own relationships, even when I wanted something different. In this episode of Perfection…

Being called “the strong one” doesn’t always feel like a compliment. Sometimes you’re getting everything done, taking care of everyone, and wishing somebody would notice how much it’s costing you. In this episode of Perfection Hangover, I explore the difference between being able to carry a lot and having a life that feels manageable. I…

Content note: This episode includes discussion of a past suicide attempt, psychiatric hospitalization, domestic abuse, addiction, and infidelity. Please choose whether and when listening feels right for you. I thought getting married would give me the stability I’d been missing. Later, I thought moving somewhere new could help us start over. But through different relationships…

Content note: This episode includes childhood physical abuse, sexual assault, alcohol misuse, and a suicide attempt. Please choose whether and when listening feels right for you. At 20 years old, I stood outside a courthouse in khaki pants and a sweater, hoping a marriage certificate would finally make me feel like I was enough. I…